Proverbs 5:1-23
It is amazing that with a failure rate of 100%, sexual misconduct remains such a powerful temptation. In all of human history there has never been a case where sexual sin produces positive results. Nevertheless, sexual sin remains vibrant in our world. Perhaps the temptation is so strong because it is like a rope of three strands. All three of the root sins can be found in this temptation. The World: In lust we desire to possess people. They are no longer humans, but having been objectified, we make people a thing to possess. The Flesh: the desire to experience more. In all sexual sin, from a fleeting moment of impure thought up to full participation with another, there is the desire for experience. The sin of pride: ego is always bound up in sexual sin; either a person says, “I am above the rules that apply to others,” or we imagine we are so great that we could do for a lover what no one else could.
There's a reason that sexual sin is often called fantasy. When we try to live a fantasy, we always become delusional and disconnected from reality. Reality is described for us in verses 7-14. Perhaps no other sin compares with sexual sin in its capacity to promise much and deliver little or the very opposite of what is promised. Solomon outlines three ways in which sexual sin ruins us. First is the drain on resources vs. 9-10. From the cost of divorce, porn subscriptions, the financial maintenance of a lover, or the cost of a prostitute, sexual sin is costly. Second, the physical toll of sexual misconduct. Sexual sin is draining, not to mention the possibility of STDs. Third, there is the internal psychological ruin. Multitudes of people live with the constant regret that results from sexual sin. And as Judgment Day approaches, these regrets intensify.
Thankfully there is sexual expression with all the joy and thrills promised but never delivered by sexual sin. In marriage we can have all the delights of sexual fulfillment without death, vs. 15-23. Strange as it may sound, while sexual temptation overpromises and underdelivers, the sexual life in marriage promises much and delivers even more. Sexual purity does require attention, focus, and effort, but the promises of verse 19 are all that a person could ever want in a lover.
“Lord, help me to live a life of radical sexual purity. AMEN.”